Sacrifice comes from the illusion that if we give up our own selves, we can let the other person carry us forward. We are willing to do anything for a person just so we can use their selfhood for our sense of identity. All sacrifice is unworthiness. It cheats our partner as well as ourselves, beacuase we cannot receive their gifts, and they get what we consider to be damaged goods, something picked up at the discount counter. As we value ourselves, we find we are creative enough to reach a solution without having to give up our position or our selfhood.

Today is a day to begin to value yourself and find your true center. Choose to live your truth rather than someone else's. Ask you Higher Mind to carry you back to your center. It is a place of peace, innocence, true value, and relatedness. Give yourself the most valuable gift of all- you.

Excerpt from If it hurts, It Isn't Love and 365 Other Principles to Heal and Transform Your Relationships by Chuck Spezzano, Ph.D.