The happiness that is generated within us cannot be taken away. If, however, we depend on outer things for our happiness, we lose it when those things change. As we are willing to keep generating the happiness within and give it, even in difficult times, the happiness in our relationship will never be lost. When we give love and happiness, especially in difficult situations, we heal and grow immensely; our joy is increased.

Today, look at any situation where your happiness seems to be dependent on outside things. With a little shift, give that happiness from within you. When you are generating happiness, everyone gets the benefit, everyone is nurtured and everyone moves forward.

Excerpt from It It Hurts, It isn't Love and 365 Other Principles to Heal and Transform Your Relationships by Chuck Spezzano, Ph.D.